Finding your Power
Moving beyond fear & accepting uncertainty
When people perceive uncertainty fear often strikes. The key here is perceive. The truth is uncertainty is the perpetual state that we live in moment to moment. Nothing is known until the moment that it is experienced and lived. In this way we are always looking onto a blank canvas and waiting for the next stroke to appear. What we frequently don’t realize is that we are the artist. We are the one drawing each stroke and our perception is how we draw. What we perceive is the picture of life we paint ourselves.
It is in this way people are not living in the same reality. There may be the surface appearance that we are all living in the same world, meaning we both see the same objects, and yet how people are experiencing this surface reality of objects is radically different. It is truly in this way that you are the master-creator of your reality. It is no joke or just new age spiritual nonsense that you are in charge, you actually are.
So the question becomes why then are we living so disempowered? Why is it so hard for us to see, know and taste our power? It is because the veil or covering of fear clouds our awareness and thus only allows us to perceive through its lens. When fear is our lens we see/perceive threat. Fear reinforces the idea of separation and promotes self-protection. Fear is lack of faith and lack of trust. It’s constantly doubting and questioning because it feels scared and alone. This is the miserable state of being that most people are living in most of the time. Know that ultimately fear is just one state of being from which you can choose, yet our tendency is to default to this program of fear whenever we perceive uncertainty.
On a lighter note this state of being of fear is what most of us came here to see through and overcome in order to help bring forth new possibilities of a reality that is lighter, rested, and more joyful for those that are ready for it. Understand that not everyone is ready for a new reality and that is ok. Sometimes holding onto patterns of fear are our only known way to create a sense of stability for ourselves. The desire to hold onto the external sense of stability, as wavering and unstable as it is, outweighs accepting the truth of uncertainty. However through accepting the truth of uncertainty you allow yourself to rest into it rather than fight it. The relinquishment of your own inner resistance to uncertainty is what propels you into your power where you find true stability. Stability in your own beingness that is independent of any circumstance, situation or condition.
Changing your programming
Being in the Driver’s seat
How is it then that we change our default response? How do we reprogram ourselves to a new patterned way of perceiving? I wish I could give you some elaborately beautiful answer, but Nike said it best with their slogan just do it. Understand that when we aren’t ready to change, change will seem really complex. We will feel lost, confused, stuck, frustrated, and like things are impossible or hard to see. We will think a lot, weigh options, blame, justify, rationalize, validate, but that is all preparation, or said another way, postponement of change. When we are ready there are no more questions, we just simply see clearly and in that clear seeing we choose differently. At the end of the day its really that simple.
It takes however long it takes for us to stop postponing our own change. It should in some way come as a relief to know this, as it means your ability to shift how you perceive and thus change your programming and the reality you experience is always up to you in each and every moment. It should feel empowering to know this because it puts you back into the driver’s seat. The truth is that you have always, always, always been in the driver’s seat, you just haven’t realized that you where. This is what is called unconsciously creating our reality. It is based on previous learning and experiences and it tends to just run on automatic in the background. It doesn’t require much energy and feels somewhat static, which gives the illusion of a consistent or same world in which things can’t change, won’t change or don’t change. Its not that things don’t change, it’s that you don’t change and when you don’t change the world looks the same day in and day out.
The key here is that there is no right and no wrong to this. There is not a right or wrong perception/experience. There is only your preference. What is your preference? How do you want to perceive/experience? Do you want to look through the lens of fear or the lens of safety? You are not choice-less in the matter, you are the chooser. When you get that life is not based on circumstances, but instead is based on you, you will have gotten what it means to live empowered.
When you live empowered you are consciously, deliberately choosing your perception. This means that you are free. Free to decide for yourself. Free to no longer allow circumstances, conditions or other people and their actions/non-actions decide for you. No more having to play nice to hope to get what you want or control other peoples actions or responses to you. Free to see how you desire to see. Free to live in your preferred reality rather than the one that has been spoon fed to you. Freedom from backlash or negative impact because you realize that you are in charge and that is true no matter what occurs. This doesn’t mean that potential “negative” things won’t ever occur, but it does mean that you are the one deciding what you choose to term negative or not. Again remember not everyone is ready for this level of freedom. Not everyone wants it yet. That is ok and perfect. Do also realize that this freedom is always here, always present and always ready for you once you ready for it.
Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado