THE ULTIMATE RECEIVER
Where’s your focus?
Receiving. Most people have difficulty receiving. As much as we all want to manifest and create we don’t give much attention or space to receiving. Rather we work hard, and then harder, to create what we want and then wonder why we are so tired and still don’t have the life we desire. While it seems that receiving would be the simplest of things, we defect it, avoid it or feel like there is never enough of what we need because we can’t receive what’s in front of us. To receive is to be open, to be receptive, and most people spend their existence being closed off, shut down, narrow minded, and in judgement rather than in open receptivity. We then wonder why life doesn’t look or feel like we desire.
We are quite wired to see what isn’t. We focus on where we’re going and what we think we are going to get when we get there, and rarely see what’s here. This is because we tend to live in a lack mindset. We view whatever is here now as if it is missing something. Something that we need to work to find or get into our lives. We might perceive that we don’t have relationships that we want, money that we want, opportunities that we want, skills that we want, the inner state that we want, the outer environment that we want, feelings that we want, and on and on. It really seems that life isn’t quite here yet, but will be here once something arrives inside of our experience so that we can give ourselves the permission to temporarily stop seeing through our lack glasses. Our focus on lack is intense. It pretty much takes up our entire bandwidth whether we are conscious or it or not. This is why we feel bad so frequently.
The thing is that in order to receive you have to see what is here rather than focus on what’s not here. Since this is a mostly rare way for us humans to focus we are always feeling depleted. Depleted because our focus is constantly on what isn’t in our experience, or what is in our experience that we don’t like. When there is something we don’t like or doesn’t feel good, we attempt to get into our experience whatever we perceive is missing, which we believe will make us feel better. At the core of this game of lack that we are playing out in our physical reality, is a sense of inner lack. A sense that something about us is missing or incomplete. A feeling that we somehow need to be different or more than we are. So we reject ourselves. We work really hard to prove ourselves. We over stretch to attempt to meet what we think the people of the world want from us. All the while not really realizing that we aren’t receiving our own selves. Again we wonder why our life isn’t as we desire it to be. Why aren’t we manifesting or creating what we want. As long as we continue to come from lack, to come from the perspective that something is missing, that is all we will ever create.
You might say that our “inability” or difficulty with receiving, stems back to the fact that nearly all of us feels a sense of inner lack. You could call this the “not enough” or “not good enough” perspective or wound. It’s like an article of clothing that we all get when we are first born into this world. Most of us have been wearing this piece of clothing for so long that it’s kind of become like a part of us. We’ve identified with it and let it become who or what we think we are. It colors everything we see. Other people, or reflections in our environment, have mirrored this not enoughness back to us and we’ve come to believe that lack must indeed be a very real thing. After all we experience it and see it, don’t we?
We experience what we see and what we see depends on the glasses (or clothes) we are looking through. Said another way, we experience what we believe and not necessarily what is. The good news is that all articles of clothing can be taken off even if they are really, really tight; even if they appear to be fused to our skin and inseparable from the tissues underneath, they can still be removed. Essentially what I am saying is that every belief that you have can be changed or a new one can be chosen. It may not be as hard as you think it is. How might it be easy you ask? All that is required is a quadruple shot of gratitude taken several times a day. It is the instant cure for your lack mindset.
In general we tend to be incredibly ungrateful. This is why the lack mindset is so strong and pervasive on this planet still. It is why human consciousness doesn’t evolve. It’s why people continue to be asleep, disconnected and working hard to prove themselves or get what they think will make them happy. Every time you don’t receive yourself you are ungrateful. For many people that is their constant state of being. They know nothing else. For others it’s more intermittent or dispersed, but nonetheless still present. The level of self-rejection is high among humans and this makes it nearly impossible to receive, and ultimately therefore create, as creating is receiving. When you have a belief that you are not worthy, that belief is incompatible with receiving. It’s incompatible with being open to life or others. It’s incompatible with manifesting your desired reality and seeing the abundant world that you want for yourself and others.
Many people don’t know that they aren’t receiving. We are so used to pushing our energy in the outward, doing direction that the receiving, inward direction is quite foreign for most. If you are very innerly or outerly busy this is key sign that you aren’t receiving. Do your thoughts never stop? Do you talk incessantly? Do you listen or receive others without thinking about what you are going to say or do next? Do you constantly need to be doing stuff for yourself or for others? Is it hard to tune into yourself for more than few moments? Do you feel tired a lot? Are you “doing” your meditation rather than actually meditating? These are all signs that you aren’t receiving. In order to receive you must be worthy and know that nothing is missing from you. That you are complete and whole as you are. To bridge the gap from incomplete to complete you must only find, feel and radiate gratitude. Gratitude for yourself, gratitude for what is in your experience now and gratitude for all future experiences. At any moment you can tune yourself to become a stream of infinite, unconditional gratitude. It is always here and available for your choosing.
Dr. Amanda Love, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado