Lover & Loved

Lover & Loved 

Lack and Abundance

Love Rose ConceptMost all of us have a hunger to be loved.  Some people seek for love through affection and relationships, and others through accomplishment, success and acknowledgment.  The largest wounding we have as humans is the feeling of being unlovable or like we are somehow not enough.  We are constantly trying to prove our enoughness to ourselves through external validation that can come either directly from another person, or indirectly through following all of the societal and cultural checkboxes and expectations for what it is to be a good and acceptable person.  

Your hunger to be loved might be hidden from your awareness.  Sometimes we are not fully aware of what is underneath all of the things we do or the ways we show up as we just assume it is just who we are.  However, upon deeper investigation we can often find that who we think we are and the things we think we want really come from a place of unlovability rather than true authentic desire.  So how do we discern if what motivates our desires is coming from lack (meaning trying to prove ourselves) or from abundance (a pure sharing, expressing and being of ourselves)?  It’s really quite easy, simply ask yourself if you are wanting something out of it.  Any time that we want something out of something that we are doing, rather than to purely give to what we are doing, we are coming from a place of lack.  Lack is always connected to not enoughness; not enoughness of self, not enoughness of resources, not enoughness of energy or opportunities.  No matter what the not enoughness is doesn’t really matter, it is all birthed from the same level of consciousness and is therefore the same.

You can equate lack to a state of unlovability, or a state of being that doesn’t know what it is.  When we don’t know what we are, meaning when we are not rested as love, then we will always feel some underlying hunger towards finding or getting it, because it seems to be missing.  This hunger towards finding or getting love is innate to us because in truth love is our natural state of being.  When we lose touch with love/ourselves (or perhaps have never known it) it is only natural that we will seek for it.  That seeking is often sought at first as something outside of us (relationships or accomplishments) and with greater experience, discovery (and disappointment), alas we being to look for that very love inside of us.   

Lover & Loved Become One 

The One who Loves the Loved 

17540280 - atomic love concept illustration design over a white backgroundWhen our outward search becomes less and less fulfilling and we realize the temporariness or inconsistency of love from “out there” which is dependent on people or circumstances doesn’t equal being rested as Love within ourselves, a new path must be sought.  While receiving love and allowing ourselves to feel the love that we are which comes through the  mirroring of things or other people is an important step, it is not the final destination. It’s not the final destination because when those people or things go away then our source of love/lovability goes away as well.  We find ourselves back at square one not knowing what we are again as our source/reflection of love has gone away.  We see this when relationships end or life circumstances change that disrupt our sense of self dramatically.  We feel a sense of deep loss of self, aimless and not knowing who we are anymore because who we thought we were was entirely wrapped up in those external situations and relationships.  

The only way to sustainably know yourself, to be centered and always connected to yourself is not only through being loved and feeling loved; you must also realize yourself as the Lover.  Not just lover to others, but lover to your own loved self.  The source from which love is created and flows.  The one who loves the loved.  Lover and loved are one.  They are complementary pairs, which are always united, one does not exist without the other.  To find that ultimate unity which we all crave, which is underneath all of our desires, which is the blueprint impulse of all of creation, can only be found in this pair of lover and loved, and reconnection with ourselves as both in one.  

Disconnection from ourselves as Lover is why we feel so powerless, lost, and don’t know who we are.  We keep thinking that Lover is found in people, things or in some aspect of creation, but it is not.  Instead it is the source of all of creation.  Looking outward to creation for the source of creation will never result in the creator being found.  It must be found inside of you.  Loved does not exist without Lover.  We have been confused in knowing ourselves only as loved, only as expressions of creation and not as the source of it.  You are the generator, the knower, the creator, the lover, not merely the expressions of such.  When you see this truth and finally recognize yourself you will never again feel like you are unlovable because you will know that you are the lover, the generator of the loved, and thus so love is implied, inherent, and literally cannot be.

The Lover is not another object, thing or person.  It is you.  Its not the stuff or ideas that you call and identify as you, but the you that is the real you.  We have been in the dark as to our true nature as lover.  We have not been able to see how we can love this expression of love that we call ourselves due to this darkness.  We are not victim to the darkness.  We must simply turn our seeking direction around and stop looking out into creation for what which we seek.  Instead we must become silent and turn our seeking inside, towards us, a direction we may have never looked before, and simply ask that the truth of ourselves be revealed to us.  We must put on our big boy and girl pants and become accountable, disciplined and devoted to knowing ourselves as the Lover.  Your full devotion to knowing yourself will reveal yourself to you.  Nothing else will.  Lover and loved reunite, become one, and never fall out of love again.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

Disconnection is the only disease

Disconnection is the only disease 

Physical, emotional and mental aspects of disease 

35721266 - doctor and patient woman.We live in a time where everyone is trying to discover the cause of their disease.  Billions of dollars, time, energy and resources are spent on finding cures.  Most people look for a physical (or physiological) cause to whatever ailment effects them.  They search for some biochemical process that is not working properly and then determine that that must be the cause of their disease.

This basic process of searching, which nearly every person does who has something that afflicts them, takes into account only the physical manifestation of a nonphysical process.  It assumes that you are your body so in order to “fix you” you must repair the body.  Warning, news flash ahead!  Despite what you have been told by probably everyone YOU ARE NOT YOUR BODY.  You are instead that which makes your body come alive, which animates and enlivens it.  That nonphysical aspect, which is you, is what runs the show.  It is that which influences and informs the physical body expression, which you call you.

Now some people have more awareness and realize that their emotions and thoughts (some less physical aspects of self) also influence their body.  This is a start in the right direction.  Being able to find and feel your emotions is quite liberating for the health of your physical body.  Investigating habitual thought patterns and discovering how your body responds to them is beneficial and healing as well.  However this is still only a few pieces of the pie.  To really reveal the entire picture we must dive into disconnection from your true self.

Epidemic of disconnection

Who/what are you really?

You are not your body, your emotions, or your thoughts.  All of those aspects are included in “you” but none of them are who you are.  Think about this for a second.  The body, feelings, and thoughts all come and go.  That which comes and goes can never be who you are, because you still remain despite them.  You can observe your body, emotions and thoughts, and therefore that which you observe can never be who you are.  Its like observing a table and saying you are that table.  No, you are the one observing the table, not the table itself.  The identification with the expression instead of that which expresses, or said another way identification with  the observed, instead of the observer, is the birth of disconnection.

9517027 - three white and black electrical plugs into white outlet on the whitePretty much everyone experiences some level of disconnection from who/what they really are.  When you are disconnected from something that means your ability to function is impaired (aka disease).  You’ve got some parts and pieces, but not the essence of what is needed.  Think of a lamp.  If the cord is disconnected from the wall outlet (its source) then it will never function as well as its meant too.  It may look pretty (which is nice), but thats about it.  We want our bodies to do more than look pretty, we want them to be lit up, alive and functioning.  When we connect more fully to our true nature (our source) organically our bodies health, we feel our emotions and our thoughts become clearer.

Network Care assists the reconnection process.  Through unwinding tension patterns in your body-being you begin to reduce the amount of interference (or disconnection) in your system.  As this unwinding occurs in level 1 and 2 of care your awareness simultaneously expands from beyond being your body, your emotions or your thoughts.  You realize you are more, and as care continues you access awareness beyond thoughts.  This is called soul level intelligence.  When this level of awareness is reconnected too you experience love, gratitude and awe as who you are.  You realize your already whole state.  Personal healing losses meaning here as you are less a person and experience yourself as energy or light.  This is the consciousness of stage 9 in SRI and level 3A/B of Network Spinal Analysis.  With each taste of this your system integrates and creates the “space” for this level of awareness to become your new baseline.  The knowing from where “you” are aware and realize yourself as awareness.

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado