True Stability

True Stability 

Finding the ground of your being

Star explosion with particles and raysIn some way we are all seeking for stability.  A sense of groundedness, hereness and ok-ness.  The search for these things is often sought in external circumstances or situations.  Once we have the job, the money, the house, the relationships, the health, the sense of personal value and contribution, then we think we will feel secure.  But what happens when all of that crumbles?  Who and what are we then?  What stability exists when there are no external structures in place to make us feel safe?  It is truly only when all forms destabilize that the real opportunity to know ourselves arrives.

The root of stability is never found in the forms, it is instead found in your pure essential nature, devoid of all appearances.  What this means is that not until all forms dissolve and all constructs fall away in your awareness can you see the essence of what remains, which is pure being, which is the real you.  The only true stability is here.  It is the pure awareness that never changes, never comes and goes, is always here, always present.  There are no illusions of stability here.  There is only the knowingness of the ground of being or the ground of your self.  This is the pure state of stability itself.  

The path to stability is not by striving, proving and achieving, but instead is through self-acceptance.  Forces of instability which seem to throw you out of your center of stability only throw you out of your delusion of center.  They show you where you are still giving your power away and looking “out there” to feel ok.  Ultimately you cannot leave yourself,  you can only be shown where you still believe that you can leave yourself.  

To fully accept yourself and discover the path to true stability is not as easy as it sounds.  It means that you must face and feel all the places that bring up a sense of instability for you.  Feeling instability equates to feeling those things we fear.  Primarily what we fear boils down to the perception of loss of love, belonging or some other form of death (i.e. something going away).  It is through avoiding the feeling of the loss, separation, and alienation that we perpetuate the loss, separation and alienation and thus the experience of fear.  The magic, the miracle, comes through us allowing the feeling of loss, as through that we make contact with ourselves again and with that sense of stability which never truly left.   

Forces of Instability 

Fuel to know yourself

18291054 - blue ocean waveDue to the fact that we have been largely misinformed or have not realized our true essential nature we have come to adopt less than complete ideas about ourselves.  These ideas are distortions of the truth, not the pure truth itself.  Most people are living with a fragmented perspective of what/who they are without the full realization that they are living in this way.  It is frequently not until something disruptive comes into our lives and shakes us up a bit that we realize that there is possibly something more than what we’ve known.   

If we are too comfortable in our illusions of stability then we don’t have the opportunity to grow and realize more of ourselves and unearth the distortions of truth that we have come to believe about ourselves.  Instead we will just simply live the status quo hoping that not too much changes and fighting tooth and nail if it does because we don’t want our delusion of stability to end.  However I promise you that you don’t let the shake up occur you will never taste true stability or know yourself because you will be too locked into your stories of what you need to be safe.  

Transformation is always about instability.  People often say that they want to transform as if its some popular spiritual thing to do, but people almost never say they want to completely deconstruct all their false structures of safety and support and then actually do it.  People don’t do it because they get caught in the fear of loss of something and rather than move into it, they move away from it. 

Instability is necessary, but it is only necessary because we don’t know the truth of ourselves yet.  When instability arises see it as the opportunity that it is.  The opportunity to taste, know and eventually rest into a true stability that remains despite all of the coming or going of forms.  Do your best not to judge the shake up as wrong or bad, as if you do you will suffer or project your suffering onto others, rather than transform.  Recognize that instability tends to come in waves.  Some waves are more potent than other waves.  See the waves as gifts that you can ride into the truth of you.  

Transformation is simply as process to know ourselves as the true stability that we are.  A stability that is made of love.  A love that is complete, inclusive and which from all coming and goings arise.  Full self-acceptance is your free ticket into knowing this stability.  An acceptance that ends all fear and which absolutely no wave can shake.  Allow the instability, move into the instability, accept the fear that arises as you move deeper into the wave and you will alas be reunited with the entire ocean.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal  Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

Beyond managing

Beyond managing

Control mechanisms that stabilize and neutralize

pest controlIt is often considered a high achievement to manage or control conditions in our lives.  In fact this is what we have learned that success is and this is the basic premise of our entire medical system; conditions looking or being a specific way.  Whether those conditions live inside of our body or in our seemingly physical world, management brings seeming stability to chaos and can neutralize conditions that previously seemed completely out of control.  This is the place that most people strive to get to when things seem overwhelming or when we feel lost or confused.  It is an important step and can feel empowering, but it is not the final destination as it comes with many constraints and limitations that usually require us to not engage in certain behaviors, or on the flip side, that we have to do certain behaviors in order to manage our conditions (aka symptoms when looking through the lens of the body).

The truth is that sometimes we do need to stabilize, however if we stay at a particular level of stability for too long we flatten out and there is no growth, further healing, or maturation of our being.  What tends to occur though is that people get here to this place of neutrality or stability and they feel like they can rest for a few moments, and then a few moments becomes a few more moments, and they start to get comfortable with how good the rest feels and they are now fully in their comfort zone.  When we are in our comfort zone there is little hunger to create instability or novelty, which would bring more energy into our system, but would also create change which may threaten the safe (yet controlled and limited) nest that we have created.

You can recognize that you are managing or controlling your conditions in life if you are making choices based on how you think something you do or don’t do will affect you later on rather than on what feels right in that moment.  It can also show up as a rigidity in what you allow or don’t allow, or the inability to be resilient in your choices.  To be totally empowered means to have complete free agency.  To follow that impulse, feeling or knowing, without the underlying worry about all the potential negative side effects it may have later on for you, but instead following your truest alignment in that moment even if it doesn’t make sense to the logical mind.  

Living outside the boxes 

The walls of limitation falling away

think outside the box conceptual - Stock ImageManaging and controlling our conditions means that we are living in certain boxes and are often in unconscious agreements with how we believe the universe works for us.  If we maintain the boxes we are safe and agreements seem to be upheld, mostly, unless the universe (our soul, higher self, etc.) says its time to wake up to another level of ourselves.  When this occurs the first perspective that we typically have is “something is wrong” or we focus on what we are seemingly losing (balance, health, safety, love, comfort, support, current desires, etc.).  

The awareness that we have this perspective occur while we are having it is the first step in starting to see that we are living in a particular box and this is life’s way of telling us that the walls of this specific box need to come down for the next step in our evolutionary journey.  If you recognize this you can begin to halt your managing strategies from taking over in attempt to keep you the same or eliminate any instability or chaos in your body-life-reality.  

What’s there when we aren’t trying to manage or control it?  At first typically immense uncomfortableness, sometimes confusion or feeling directionless, or it can feel unstable and frustration can arise as we attempt to control again.  As you find this place more and more it begins to simply feel like emptiness or you may notice a sense of relief.  With increasing time and practice here you begin to find a sense of stability within the instability.  Then, simply put, you “experience what is”.  When you are with what simply is you become present, in the moment.  This is where the most aliveness resides and is the birth place of all possibilities.  

The birth place of all possibilities is where its at!  This goes beyond the conditioned things that we’ve learned about ourselves, who we think we are or how things work.  Its where free agency (aka liberation) lives, along with total freedom from conditions despite what shows up.  We are not impacted or influenced by the conditions, but instead see them as risings and fallings within our awareness.  We don’t identify the conditions as us, nor do the conditions determine what’s possible.  To go beyond managing is to open up into the world of infinite possibilities without being attached to what of those possibilities is made manifest into the physical-form reality.  Its moving towards what feels best and in the most alignment at each and every moment.  Its trusting the orchestration of it all without having to manage it or make it happen.  Boundless energy arises when you live here in this present unfolding moment.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado