Healing through being
What healing is & how it occurs
The cultural belief is that one person must do something to another person often via some tool, technique or device, in order for the person to heal from what is seemingly ailing them. Everything from our modern medical establishment to the plethora of healers with their healing modalities reinforces this belief. There are ever so few people out there including healers, no matter how alternative they are in their thinking or methods, that really understand what healing is and how it occurs.
Healing is 100% an inside job. It is all about your perception and relationship to what is. Tools, techniques, devices, healers, etc are all simply permission slips for the already whole state to be mirrored to you and accepted by you. The reason why some methods or healers seem to be better or more effective than others is because the mode of presentation of the method or the person is more acceptable to you. Meaning you feel some resonance with either the person/healer or the tool and therefore it is a better permission slip for you; you more easily accept that it will work for you and therefore it does. This is why some things or healers appear to work for some people and not for others. It is really never about the thing/healer, as the thing or person is inherently neutral. Instead it is all about what lands for you and gives you a sense of an inner “yes”. You must follow that inner yes as it will guide you to those things which will work best for you and which your being is most receptive too. Until you are fully rested in the knowingness of your wholeness having mirrors and permission slips is vitally important.
It is my experience and understanding that the true role of the healer is not to “do” anything. Instead the role is simply that of a mirror that reflects the true, whole essence. Call that reflection love if you will. A healer simply reflects love so that when you are in the presence of such healer you see your true self, which is love. Love is perfection, completion, and wholeness so therefore when you see yourself as this everything in your seeming external environment (including your body) becomes that. Everything follows your perception. When your perception sees love, knows love, then everything becomes love. Seeing through the lens of love or wholeness is what healing is and how it occurs.
Healing through being
True health is a state of well-being
Due to the fact that we are largely focused on doing, rather than being, our focus is almost perpetually on what is being done rather than the state of presence or being itself. If enough has been done, changed or accomplished than we feel successful. We almost never gauge our success on how well we “be-ed” today. This is also true when we look at our own healing. We tend to focus on what has physically changed as a measure of success, meaning did the symptoms go away. Symptoms going away actually has relatively little to do with healing. A person can be symptom free and not be healthy. A person can have multiple symptoms but be in a state of pure presence, love and grace (state of being rather than doing). To be healthy is to be in a state of well-being. The mere presence or absence of symptoms is a crappy indicator of a state of health despite what we have been brainwashed to believe.
When I am working with someone no matter what tool, form or technique that I am using, my focus is not on what is being done, but instead on the nature of existence or awareness. It is a focus on beingness and the perfected acceptance of all that is, including you. When that reflection of perfection is received by you the effects of that are frequently that something seems to have changed or been done. This can be noticed by changes in your physical form, such as how a place in your body is opening or shifting, or some movement of energy, but a change in the physical is not a requirement for healing to occur. You can still have symptoms, but be in a state of pure, perfected, bliss and oneness, where the presence or absence of symptoms doesn’t even touch you because you are so rested in perfected love.
It is when we develop resistance to what is that our state of being (aka health) declines. Resistance is the state of being that equals ill health. Just how many people are fighting or trying to change the appearance of what is, thinking that the harder they fight and the more seemingly unflawed the appearance (aka body), the more healed they will become? I’d say just about pretty much everyone thinks this way. We resist because our mind tells us that we don’t like what is, or that what is is bad or wrong, or that it means something negative, but what if through acceptance of what is (rather than the fight to fix or conquer it) we found all the healing that we are seeking for so badly. What if it has never been about what is done to you, but instead your relationship to what is, which by the way is 100% in your control. What if your healing has been within your power all along. I’m here to tell you confidently that is has, its just that the path has seemed a bit cloudy. I’m here to help clear the clouds so that that which already is can be seen and accepted by you.
Acceptance doesn’t mean that things don’t still occur or aren’t seemingly still done. Things occur. Movement happens. Appearances, including your body and symptoms, change. Your life can be undergoing major transitions and transformations. Its simply that your well-being isn’t dependent on what is occurring anymore. You’ve transcended the need to control circumstances, again including your body, and you now allow and move with whatever arises within your experience, all the while learning and growing and being rested in knowing that all is perfectly well.
Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado