YOU DON’T NEED TO DO MORE
Be as you are
Nearly all of us have bought into the story that we need to do more and more and more. It’s as though we could give everything we’ve got to give and somehow we still come up short in what we think we need to give. The doing, and the thoughts of all the doing, are exhausting. We then wonder why we are so tired and depleted, and yet we keep attempting to give more than we’ve got to give. What happens when we run out of fuel, but we keep giving anyways? Breakdown. Breakdown of our body, our mind and our lives. We see the breakdown and still we don’t stop trying to give more than we’ve got to give.
Where does this insatiable need to do more come from? It comes from a deep seated belief that we are not enough. We think that if we can somehow give or do more, then we can bridge the gap between our not enoughness and what we think we need to give in order for it to be enough. It’s as if all of our doing can somehow compensate for our sense of not being enough in/as our natural state of being. As an extension of this, our sense of not enoughness often shows up as a feeling of lack in abundance of resources. We give or do more, more, more so that we don’t feel this lack of enoughness. We fear that if we don’t over-give or over-do then we won’t have what we need or we won’t be taken care of. So we are like slaves to our avoidance of feeling the not enoughness that we fear we are.
It’s an edge for many of us to simply be rested as ourselves without feeling the inner obligation, necessity, or burden to do or give more than is natural for us to give or do. We hope that our doing will make us feel like we are enough. We try to get to enough through our giving rather than simply being enough. It’s a losing game, because we can never feel or experience what we don’t first become. We must become enough before we will experience the feelings of enoughness. Nothing we do can will ever sustainably get us to feeling complete. We are attempting to do it backwards. We somehow think that we have to prove, attain or show our worthiness in order to experience it. Yet the recognition or realization of our enoughness, in our already state of being as we are, is the answer to the end of feeling not enough. When we see ourselves and what we have to naturally give as enough in its expression, then so it is. This doesn’t always mean that the people or things in our life will always get what they want from us, but it does mean that you will be alignment with yourself as you are.
A WORLD OF ENOUGHNESS
Abundant in abundance
A world of absolute and complete enoughness. Can you even imagine what that would feel or be like? Imagination is exactly what we need. Imagination that is rooted in knowing that it is already so. In this way our imaginations can create the playing field of experience to match what we are already convicted in to be true. This is the way it works. It’s already working this way. It’s simply that what we are currently convicted in is lack of enoughness of self, and the projection of that is the experience of lack in this world. One might say that we are abundant in lack. There is no real lack, but only the perception of it. That is true for how we view ourselves and the world. We can see ourselves as not enough, but we can never actually be not enough. This is not to say that other flavors, resources or beings might not be needed in certain situations in life, but just because something more or else is needed has nothing to do with our inherent enoughness.
We don’t need to be everything, we just need to be ourselves. Being ourselves is enough even if more is needed. We don’t have be the more. This is why there are billions of beings on this planet. Each being has the responsibility to be itself, nothing more and nothing less. Neither is even possible. You can always and only be what you are. You can try to be more, but this where burnout and breakdown occurs. Give over trying to be it all in order to be enough, and let in all of the other beings in this life to support whatever is needed in each and every moment. We are not designed to do it all or be it all rather we are designed to be who we are, just as we are.
It takes courage to not take it all on as yours. Courage to trust that you being you is enough. That you can love yourself just as you are and you don’t have to first be more. Give what you want to give. Do what you want to do. Let whatever your giving and doing is be enough. It is. Just because you think that other people, or the situations of your life, want or need more of you than you have capacity to give or be, it’s ok to let it be or let them want. It’s ok if they are disappointed or upset and/or if you are disappointed in yourself. Come back to knowing that you are enough in your current state of giving, being and doing. Get more and more convicted in the knowing of your enoughness. The paradox is that the less you attempt to be more than you are, the more of you that you’ll have to give.
Knowing you are enough is the same as loving yourself. Honor who you are. Stop wishing you could somehow be different or more. That’s unkind, and if you value kindness then start with yourself. You will naturally grow, expand and develop as a being, but none of that growth makes you more than you already are in this moment. You are complete and enough right now in exactly whatever it is you give and do. More giving or doing doesn’t make you more. Recognize your enoughness now and you will experience a world of enough. A world that is abundant in abundance rather than abundant in lack. It all starts and ends in how you view it. How you see, so it is.
Dr. Amanda Love, Network Spinal Analysis Chiropractor, Boulder, Colorado