Need for approval

Need for approval 

Death of your uniqueness

White 3d human - green tickThe need to be approved of by others runs pervasive throughout our shared reality.  Being approved of relates to everything from fitting in with our families and friends, belonging to social groups, and feeling safe, significant and worthy.  Even those whom seem to pave their own path and not care what others think of them may have deeper or more subtle layers of being hijacked by their need for approval.  

The need to be approved of by others is birthed in relationship with “other”.  It may have been reflected to you when you were young that you “did something wrong” or that you need to act in such and such way in order to fit in.  You learned that approval from others is important if you want to fit in and “be loved”.  Somehow love, acceptance and self-worth got merged with approval.  This is what could be termed “conditional” love.  I will love you only if you act or are these certain ways.  This is manipulation, not love.

When the need to be approved of takes place at this young age we often lose connection to our uniqueness.  Call it your essence, direction, clarity, confidence, gifts, etc.  This is one of the reasons people often feel like they don’t know what their purpose is because to know it may mean that you become an outcast, no longer belong, aren’t safe and may not survive.  That is some pretty big stuff so no wonder we keep the mask up of “not knowing” or following our purpose.  It’s much physiologically safer to do so. 

One of the ways to see where you are still seeking approval over being your authentic self is noticing where you do things that you don’t really want to do in relationship with others because you feel like you “have to”.  Like its your duty or obligation to do so.  You will typically feel a heavy sensation in your body, tightness in the heart/chest, knots in your belly and it will feel like an impossibility to entertain the idea of not doing the “thing” as the repercussions would be too great.  Meaning it feels like there would be to much disruption, people would be too upset and so you justify “its just not worth it”.  With this you often build up resentment towards the  other(s) when really it is simply you that is not acting in alignment with yourself.  You often think you are doing the “right thing”, even being altruistic if you will, and that by you just sucking it  up it will make everyone else happy and feel good.  However you do so at the detriment of what feels good and right to you.  Over time you learn to trust yourself less and less, hate yourself more and more, and become increasingly disconnected from what’s truly important to you, even dismissing it entirely and convincing yourself that you don’t matter.  In these ways you have created more value on the need for approval from others than you have on your own self.  

self sacrificeThis breads massive amounts of lack of clarity and confidence in yourself.  Your value, worth and belonging is caught up in making sure that other people are happy with your actions.  Yuck.   Even just writing that sentence feels bad.  It feels bad because its so distorted and ultimately untrue, yet most of us are living this as reality which is deeply sad.  

The first thing to remember and know is that your worth is inherent.  Meaning whether or not others approve of an action you take or decline to take, or even a perspective or lens you view the world with, it means absolutely nothing about you, your worth, your value or significance.  Also remember that if you don’t want to do something that someone else wants you to do it does not make you a bad person, friend, spouse, lover, mother, daughter, brother, etc. It simply means you prefer something else even if that something else is seen as selfish or unloving by others.  This can be one of the hardest things to swallow because for most of us being viewed as selfish or unloving by others tends to make us feel bad about ourselves.  The thing is that you must commit to your own knowingness, listen to your own desires and when you do this it is never selfish or unloving, but indeed the opposite.  It is permissioning you to simply be your-self.  It is deeply caring for yourself and honoring that which you are here to do and express.

Lastly if you find yourself not taking a certain action that you do want to take or perhaps not creating something because you fear others opinion of you, realize this to is seeking approval from others.  You may feel small, like “you don’t know enough” or “who are you to do xyz”, and find yourself comparing yourself to another who seems to know more.  You fear how they might judge what you create or do so you do nothing because your fear of judgment or lack of approval is too great.  If you find yourself doing this explore what it’s like to simply free yourself from needing their approval of you and what you want to do or create.  In fact see if you can free yourself from needing anyone’s approval of you.  This includes approval from your parents, kids, teachers, friends, colleagues, mentors, etc.  You don’t need their approval.  When you get this you also start to get self-love and unconditional love.  You no longer insist that others do things in specific ways either and free them to follow their truest impulse of what feels good to them.  

Rather then making sure you are loved/approved by others you move towards making sure you are loving and approving of yourself.  That you are taking actions in alignment with yourself.  You realize more and more that you really don’t need love or approval from anyone because you are bubbling over in love and approval (acceptance) of yourself.  This is completely liberating.  Its beyond manipulation and conditions.  Its free.  This is the true nature of love and of you.  This is the alignment of you as love.  

Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

Being a clear channel

Being a clear channel 

How you know what you know

36060498 - kundalini meditationWe are all channeling and thus transmitting something.  Whether that something is beliefs that society or our parents taught us, or values that our own beliefs have instilled in us, or our “higher self”, or intergalactic/interplanetary/inter-dimensional  information, its all channeled.  So what does channeling mean.  It essentially means that we are tapped into an information stream or source and we are transmitting, emitting or expressing that information through our physical vehicle (body) in some manner.  Information becomes energy or expression.  So whether that information comes from the beliefs in our minds, or from beyond our ordinary minds, is a matter of the resonance we have to connect with a particular stream of information (meaning how relevant it is for us) and also how clear of a channel we are for information to come through.  

What interferes or distorts the information that comes through?  In being on this planet and having this particular human form there are a multitude of filters that come along with having this experience.  These filters if you will, distort information and sometimes block information completely from our awareness for the sake of preserving the mission of you having this human experience.  As frustrating at it can be sometimes we need to not know certain information as it would interfere with the bigger picture of why we came here to have this experience in the first place.  These filters that are in place are made up of beliefs and the ways that you perceive reality to be.  There are both collectively agreed upon filters that allow our society to function with certain agreed upon laws and rules and there are also individual filters which are part of your own theme.

With all of that said there are ways to penetrate into deeper knowings and intelligence sources.  The clearer you are the more access you have to information beyond the what most people view as ordinary. Let’s explore what creates a clear channel and the basic components or substratum of all information.   

What creates a clear channel?

A vessel for love & wisdom

I have found that the most important components for being a clear channel are having as little attachment, agenda or polarity to any particular flavor of information and being able to still or quiet your thinking mind.  Simultaneous with this having a general disposition towards being of service to others accelerates or amplifies the levels which you can penetrate into in your awareness.  It is a combination of being receptive enough to tune and listen and also a willingness to share in support of others.

The substratum for all things in the universe is love.  Love is the fabric with which everything that is manifest comes into visible and invisible forms.  Intelligence or information is interwoven and inseparable from this fabric of love.  It informs and shapes the love into what it will express as.  This intelligence is infinite in its knowing and thus creates infinite expressions.  Thus if you distill everything down to its essential essence it is this intelligence/love combination.  So in essence everything you channel or express/transmit or that you are is this.  It then becomes matter of how many filters are between this original knowingness and where you are in your current level of awareness.  

An important question to ask yourself is what do you want to become a channel of?  What do you want be emitting or transmitting by your very presence on this earth?  What knowingness do you want to express?  Part of the distortion of having this human form is the forgetting of what we are and the illusion of separation.  Most of us intuitively know that there is more, but even that requires some level of being able to penetrate beyond the usual workings of our reality.  Asking yourself questions such as the above brings you into a more focused and deliberate direction.  Many people are  simply waiting for something to hit them and then they think they will “know”, but really it is a conscious decision to move in a particular direction and then intelligence/love organizes itself around our intention.  

Hand tuning fm radioLike a radio you are tuning to different streams of information available within the infinite field of reality and then transmitting the information contained in those streams.  Moving your dial between channels or streams requires the deliberate focusing of your attention.  If you’re not enjoying the particular channel that you are tuned into then refocus your attention by asking yourself different questions.  Quiet your mind, receive and transmit your new station. 

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

Free will

Free will 

Reclamation of our true nature

Broken chainsWe all are and thus have free will.  Free will is that which underlies all things yet is often mysterious or elusive to us.  Many people’s free will is wrapped up in conditioning, so much so that free will can be unrecognizable to us as our free will, but instead is a bunch of assumptions that we simply believe in without investigation that seem to dictate our lives.  Because we simply believe without investigation of truth we can feel powerless or victim rather than as the free agents that we are.  The un-investigated belief decides for us rather than us recognizing that we are the one that decides whether the belief is true or not.  This is what is called “being asleep” or being unconscious to what we are.  

The reason why so many people are on a path to “waking up” is because they want to feel and be free, which is our true nature.  Its inherent in us to move towards more light, more awareness, more truth, more of us.  It is a natural impulse that is built into the entire universe including you.  In order to find your freedom, your free will, you must become more awake or conscious.  This occurs through a process of slowing down, investigating your beliefs and over time reclaiming and waking up to more and more of your free nature.  The term free will can be used synonymously with the term awareness.  To be aware is to be free.  

So where do you start?  I’ve found that having the hunger to be 100% responsible and 100% in charge of my own self is key.  Developing and committing to that desire no matter what.  If you don’t have the commitment to take 100% responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, actions, emotions and sensations then you will always find yourself victim to something.  This is not easy in a world where we have been brought up believing that life and circumstances are happening to us, rather than that we are the one creating them.  This is one of the most important beliefs to investigate.  When our lives don’t look like or feel like we want them to we often go to blaming circumstances or conditions rather than seeing how we have been creating unconsciously.  Your beliefs will create the reality you perceive whether you are conscious or unconscious as to what you believe.   

Living in awareness of choice

Touching our true essence vs. knowing it as us 

freedomUndoubtably we have all had experiences of touching or tasting our true essence.  It may have been through a peak experience, or during a meditation, or through taking a psychedelic, after a really restful nap, during entrainment or an SRI session, or by coming into direct contact with someone who has more awareness than us, etc.  All of these are vehicles, ways or portals into which we can get a taste of our more true essence and free will.  

A common tendency is to believe that it is the thing or person that gives us this experience of ourselves when really they are simply doorways or permission slips to what is always already there.  That which is always, already there must be pointed to less we go into idolizing the portal rather than what the portal opens up into, which is our true nature.  This can be frequently missed because again we have this inherent underlying belief that life is happening to us rather than we are the creators of our lives.  Said another way is that an experience of divinity is happening to us rather than we are the divine that is expressing.  

Its important to investigate your relationship with the above.  See where you still relate as life happening to you, experiences happening to you, God happening to you, rather than you as creator/God happening to life.  The bridge between touching your true essence and knowing your true essence as you starts through conscious, deliberate and intentional choosing.  

Most of the time we are simply waiting for things to happen to us or for us rather than being deliberate and intentionally setting our internal environment to the conditions we desire.  At first it can feel like work to create your internal environment to be conducive to your desires, and sometimes you have to start even more fundamental than that and explore what it is you truly do desire.  Again many of us are living desires that we’ve learned, that are not inherent to our personal, individualized theme and purpose, so we must weed out what is truly important to us from what is not truly important.  Once we decipher our true desires than we must align fully with it.  Set our internal space to it.  Ask ourselves questions that align us with it, over and over and over again.  Anywhere we catch ourselves being aimless we must become deliberate realizing that we truly are in charge of our experience 100%.  This empowers us and frees us.  Through this process we reclaim and realize our free will and free agency as creators of this creation we call life.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

See you in everyone

See you in everyone 

Stretching beyond the personal bubble

Baby Floating in Protection BubbleThere is a particular focus we all have as humans.  This focus is the awareness of being an individual self.  What this means is that as a human you are aware that you have a separate sense of self from other selves that you perceive within your awareness.  In fact one of the primary developmental stages in the human experience is this development of an individual self.  You see this start to emerge as young as one year of age and continue on through adulthood.  

This self-awareness (awareness of you as an individual self) is what creates the perception of duality, or a me and you.  Said another way it reinforces the concept, idea and thus perception of separation.  In this way everyone is living in their own individual bubbles of self, experiencing the world as a separate person from other persons.  While this probably seems like the absolute truth to most everyone, as this is the perception and and thus experience that dominates our consensus reality, its not the full picture.  

Within this limited perspective of being an individual self it becomes necessary to create strategies to protect our individual self from other selves.  In this way it is us against our environment.  This is where the development of “defense strategies” within our nervous system’s come into play.  Because we perceive ourselves to be separate we develop methods of self protection.  This is innate and wired into the system of the organism of this physical form.  These methods of self protection actually cut us off from being able to experience beyond our personal bubble or perception of self and instead keep us confined to our bubble.  As long as our sense of self (self-awareness) is identified with being this individual body these methods of protection will play out in our nervous system to keep us safe in our perception of self.  

 

What’s the bigger picture?

Expanding beyond the individual sense of self

Crystal Ball with all seeing eyeThe bigger picture is that ultimately you are not really a separate individual self.  I know that may seem weird or hard to grasp, but I’m sure you have all had some glimpses or experiences of this fact.  Maybe it was through an experience of empathy with a child or loved one where you felt what they were feeling.  In that way you had a joined experience.  Or perhaps you’ve had the experience of being in a crappy mood and then walking into a room where everyone in that room was feeling blissful or joyful and it started to rub off on you.  In these examples there is still a you and another you but it is starting to blend and these are beginning tastes of interconnectedness.

In truth none of us are actually in individual closed off bubbles (or substitute body for bubble) even though that’s what most currently experience their reality as.  However the fact that most of us perceive ourselves in this way is what creates our reality to reflect a reality of separate selves back to us.  Yes you actually do create your reality by how you perceive yourself to be!

So how do you as a perceived separate individual perceive beyond being a separate individual?  There are many paths and strategies for realizing self beyond the individual sense of self.  One of the most powerful ways that I have found is to see myself in everyone.  In this way everyone I see becomes me.  This begins to dissolve the beliefs that “I can’t feel or know what someone else is feeling or experiencing” because if they are me than I can.  “Physical” boundaries become less distinct and defined and with that a more subtle energetic sense opens.  People refer to this as essence or spirit.  This strategy also opens your heart and as your heart opens more your awareness of self becomes more unified and less separate.  Along with that those defense mechanisms that keep your separate sense of self safe and protected simply don’t need to fire because there is less perceived “threat from other” because there is less perceived sense of other.  

If this excites you than practice playing with it.  As you do you should notice more joy and an innate sense of all inclusivity.  You will notice where you previously resisted something about someone else there is simply acceptance and love.  You begin to experience that things that people say or do have nothing to do with you personally and you don’t feel the need to react anymore to defend yourself.  You begin to move more and more into bliss, oneness and the one love that is all of creation.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

Imagination

Imagination 

The energy of creation

Dreaming about new house. Thoughtful young woman looking at the sketch on the wall while sitting on the floorCreating the clearest map that you can in your mind is a fundamental key to bringing the un-manifest into the manifest, or said another way, bridging the gap between concept/idea and physical reality.  Often times we get frustrated because life doesn’t look like we desire it to or we feel that something is missing from it, yet we aren’t really clear on what we even want it to look like, we simply know that what it currently is isn’t it.  

If you don’t have a clear picture in your mind of your life, of what you want to create or bring forth, you will most likely feel directionless, lost, listless, and have low energy.  Its like you are trying to move forward through life, but without vision, purpose or the “map” of where you are going, which imagination helps to create.  You’re trying to move your proverbial car, but you don’t have the fuel, so moving forward feels empty, mundane or simply “not worth it”.  

Using your imagination (or using your mind to create rather than just simply think thoughts) can sometimes seem trivial.  You may have the belief that imagination is “make believe”, just for kids or a fun thing to think about, but what you don’t realize is that imagination is the first step in creation.  Everything that is/has been created in this so called physical reality has at some point been imagined in someone’s mind.  Imagination is the birth place of creation.  

When we start to allow ourselves to use our imagination to imagine what we desire and want, we often discover that we don’t actually know what we want, or if we do know, we think what we want is not possible, not achievable, or not realistic or practical.  This is where the energy of creation dies, our lower thinking mind dominates and we settle into the mundane feeling state of low energy and directionlessness.  

 

Seeing yourself as a creator 

Imagination is the tool of the creator

glass ball in hands with abstract backgroundOur minds obviously think thoughts.  In addition to simply thinking thoughts our minds also create ideas.  People call this innovation, being a wayseer, a visionary, an entrepreneur or a leader.  Essentially it is being a creator, it is our creator self.  We all have this capacity available to us, but we don’t all use it consciously.  

The mind or “mental intelligence” can be broken into two broad distinctions.  The first is our lower mind and the second is our upper mind (also known as lower mental intelligence and upper mental intelligence).  We all have access to these different aspects of our mind, however some people tend to have more energy or strength in one aspect as opposed to the other.  The lower mind is called the “thinker” and its function is to think thoughts, see the details, and follow and carry out the rules set in place.  The upper mind is called the “optimizer” and its function is to create maps, see the bigger picture and re-create the stories and rules for something that works better then what is currently in place.

In general I would say people hang out in their lower mental or thinking minds more than the creating aspect of their minds.  Some people may feel arrogant in seeing themselves as a creator, others may think they aren’t skilled in it, some may not feel that powerful or feel uncomfortable with that degree of power, while others simply haven’t tapped into this aspect of themselves as they have been following the rules of society or of others for most of their life.  

These intelligences are on a developmental spectrum.  Lower mind developing prior to upper mind.  However if a particular aspect wasn’t reinforced or there was not enough energy in the system at the time of development, it remains undeveloped or under-resourced.  In order to bring energy into the upper mind so that we can more easily access our creator self we must begin to imagine what we want to create with as much specificity and detail that we can (using the lower mind here as well as you need both).  This starts to activate or wake up that intelligence more in our system.  

If we can imagine it, it can be brought into being and form no matter how crazy it seems to our current level of understanding and beliefs of impossibility.  Imagination starts with the vision and clear detail of something, it then moves into a feeling state in our awareness and then into physical reality through our continued focus, commitment,  attention to it and our becoming of it.  This is the path for bringing the formless into form.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

What are you committed to now?

What are you committed to now?

You are at where you are ready for

3D Rendering battery chargeAsking yourself “what are you committed to now” is the same thing as what you are ready for in your life.  Often times we say we are ready and that we want “xyz”, perhaps it is to feel differently, to stabilize in a more expanded state of being, be more energized or to have a different set of circumstances or conditions, yet we aren’t actually committed to or ready for it now.  We put the idea of what we think we want out there as a whimsical concept or a “hope and dream” that someday (fingers crossed) it will happen.  In doing so we keep our desires distant in time, to some future time unknown to us, simultaneously waiting for a magical and mysterious force to make it happen.  In doing so we give our power away while creating separation in what we think our actual reality can be now.  

What does it take to really be ready?  To be committed now and not at some future mysterious time?  It takes your knowingness that you can no matter what and your 100% desire and alignment with that which you say you want.  Not 95%, not 97%, even 99% alignment won’t cut it.  It must be 100% of you in alignment with that which you desire.  No wavering, no excuses, no justifications, no saying that you don’t know how or thinking that you can’t.  When you are ready there are no obstacles between what you are and what you desire.  In some ways its already happened and the physical manifestation catches up with where you already are.  

When we put things off, say we don’t know how, look for something outside of us to make it happen, we are outsourcing our power and choosing separation and suffering over freedom, liberation and truth.  That may sound extreme, and indeed it is extreme, yet we are doing it all of the time, calling it normal and then wondering why we are still suffering and why something magical hasn’t fixed us yet.  Something magical hasn’t fixed us yet because we have yet to claim that we are the magical being that “fixes us”. There is no other.  We are our own responsibility.   

Natural rhythms

Stages of Consciousness with Somato-Respiratory Integration  

39250156 - abstract circles art background. (swirl pattern)There are natural rhythms to everything.  In fact this is what the 12 stages of SRI are based on, the natural rhythms of consciousness that are experienced on the journey from suffering to awakening into truth. There are rhythms to suffer and feel powerless (stage 1), there are rhythms to project that other people and things know more than you (stage 2), rhythms to feel stuck and limited (stage 3), rhythms to reclaim your power (stage 4), rhythms to merge beyond your stories of limitation (stage 5), and rhythms to be ready, committed (stage 6) and to know yourself beyond what you’ve known yourself to be (stage 7).  No rhythm is better than another.  They are simply stages of development that we experience.  Some of them we visit or hang out in more frequently than others.  If there are stages or rhythms that aren’t resolved for you then they will keep resurfacing.  You must find acceptance within each rhythm if you are to integrate fully your development of the stages.

Its never about forcing yourself into a rhythm that you aren’t in and desire to be in, but more about fully being in and with whatever rhythm you are in.  The capacity to be able to do so means that you have to be able to identify the rhythms and know which one you are currently experiencing.  It is through identifying and being with where you are at that you can move through the stages with increasing grace and presence.  

The rhythm of being ready and committed is a higher stage of transformation. You know who you are, you know why you are here, and you simply must align with it.  So how do you get to a stage of readiness?  Its a combination of becoming aware, acknowledging and accepting your disconnection, being sick enough of suffering (this is where the energy comes from to transform), reclaiming your responsibility of your state of being, knowing you are worth it and that you are moving through and forward no matter what.  You simply decide and it is so.  There isn’t even really another choice at this point.  

In this particular rhythm it is never about the circumstance, situation, or other people, it is always about you.  It is about how you can better align with what is important to you, its about what you must do and how you must show up.  The power is not out there somewhere but instead here within you, as you, you hold the magic key.  Everything and anything is possible here.  You simply must be your commitment.  The world responds to you not the other way around.  You know your place as creator of and doing to rather being done to.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado

Divine perfect love

Divine perfect love 

The magic of you

magical youDid you know that you are pure magic.  Divine perfect love.  Flawless.  Do you know that there is nothing but this. Our fall from grace, or God, or love comes through forgetting this simple truth and then refusing to believe it when it is pointed out to us.  What would your life look like, how would you feel and who would you be if at every moment of every day you brought this knowing, this remembrance, alive and in the forefront of your consciousness.  If you didn’t allow yourself to believe or even entertain any other possible truth or reality.  

Doubt and mistrust are the killers of life, destroyers of all possibilities and the zappers of love.  When we doubt who and what we are, believing that we are other than divine perfect love, then everything we see becomes a reflection of our doubt.  Things, events, situations and people appear distrustful.  Life feels devoid or empty of something but we can’t quite put our finger on what’s not there.  Sometimes we feel hopeless and lost and can’t find our way back home.  Our heart feels a million miles away and we are not even sure how to feel it again.  The world looks flat and ordinary.  Nothing seems magical.  We all know some level of having tasted this place.  Its called the “human condition” and sadly most people in our world our living this as their constant reality.  Some are just better at functioning within it than others.  

So what is our issue with not claiming, knowing and being the divine perfect love that we already are?  Why are we playing this game of denial with ourselves?  Why does it feel so hard to accept this truth?  We have become so focused on our body, matter and form that we have forgotten our spirit.  The fact that we are spirit as well as form feels like quackery to most because they can’t “see” their spirit.  Other people feel arrogant in saying they are spirit or divine, feeling “who are they to be so worthy and magical.”  We have been conditioned, simply by being born here, that we not divine, not worthy, and not perfect.  All of life’s seeming challenges, pains, sickness, and such are all catalyst and fuel to help us remember and reclaim what we already are while we simultaneously are inhabiting this body.  We are here to wake up to what we are inside of this form.  This is the primary lesson that humanity is learning right now.   

Pulling up the roots 

Unearthing the lies you’ve been taught about who you are

40630695 - big tree roots and sunshine in a green forestWe’ve all got roots, and for some of us it may have been a long time since we cleaned out our garden.  In fact some of us may have never cleaned out our gardens and are thus still living in our parents, grandparents and societies gardens.  We may be so rooted down to certain concepts and ideas of ourselves that we learned from others, that we actually believe we are those concepts and ideas. 

Its important to know exactly what is growing in your garden and how deep down in the soil of you it is rooted.  This is your responsibility and it is how you step into being the conscious, deliberate creator in your life.  Its how you literally create yourself.  It is up to you to do this.  Unfortunately no one can do this for you.  That’s why someone can tell you just how perfectly divine you are and yet you can’t believe it.  Its because you’ve got roots deep down in your garden that believe other and since you are the gardener of your garden it is fully up to you to tend it.  

Pulling up the old roots (stories, concepts) of self that don’t serve you is vital.  If you don’t pull them up then they will keep growing and showing up in your life.  At times they may even take over your entire garden.  Pulling them up allows room for new flowers, plants and trees to grow.  You must investigate and decide what greenery and roots that you want in your garden, and just like any garden you must nurture, nourish and water those that you want and let the others dry up. 

So what is nourishment in our metaphysical garden?  Nourishment is energy and energy comes from the thoughts, focus and the attention that we give to things.  What we focus on grows, what we don’t falls away.  If you want divine perfect love to grow then plant the seed and give it attention.  If you want unworthiness, doubt and mistrust to dry up then stop feeding them your energy.  You may see them arise in your garden from time to time, or even on a daily basis, and just as soon as you are aware of them choose not to give them nourishment.  Choose to take energy out of those plants and put it into other plants.  Be clear and intentional on what you want to grow and what you don’t want to grow.  Be willing to be so flexible that you can shift your attention and thus the nourishment you give to things the moment you recognize that they’ve arisen.  Decide that it is important enough to you to not keep feeding those old plants and be willing to shift your focus instantaneously.  

Again only you can do this.  Support from others that can point and direct you is vital but ultimately it is up to you.  Take the energy out of blame, shame, victim, and fault and take ownership of your life.  Be the driver and you will see just how much power you really have to create yourself and your life.  

Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado