YOUR EXPERIENCE IS YOURS
What’s true?
Your experience is yours. That might seem like the most obvious statement yet most of us believe that our experience is out there, somewhere, inside of someone or something else. Well it seems like there is just one reality and that we are all living in it, the truth is that each person is living inside of their own reality. Yes we might both see the same red car or the same blue sky, but are they really the same? Can anyone say for sure that there is an objective world in which we are all experiencing the exact same thing? While we make this assumption I believe the jury is still out as to the validity of that assumption. There may very well be the same “template”, or what we call the physical world, that many people agree upon and therefore see, sense or seem to interact with in similar ways, however each person’s experience of that “template” is still their own. This is why two, three or a thousand people can be in what appears to be the exact same “external” situation, but each have very different experiences of it.
What makes the difference in each person’s experience of “reality”? Simply our thoughts and beliefs about what it is that we are experiencing. This equals our interpretation. While it often seems that our thoughts and beliefs are right about what we are experiencing, that is because they determine our experience. They come before our experience of our experience and so of course it seems that they are right, because they will determine how we experience our experience. However with a little self-inquiry and an open mind, you might come to arrive at a different conclusion from where you positioned yourself even moments ago before you investigated what you were thinking and believing to be true. With a little self-discovery we can come to see through a different perspective quite quickly, almost instantaneously, even if we have been believing something to be true for our entire conscious life.
This is why healing happens in an instant. It is in that instant where we see through a different perspective that our entire reality changes. Maybe our physical agreed upon template reality doesn’t seem to change (or for some perhaps it does), but how we see that reality absolutely 100% shifts. This instantaneous new seeing of what we are looking at alters our entire relationship to everything inside of it regardless if the physical seems to change for us or not. Our ideas about what is seem solid, yet they are constantly moving. They are as solid as a shifting thought. Yet our safety and security is frequently wrapped up in attempting to keep our thoughts from ever changing. You can see why people feel so afraid and insecure. You can also see why people might not want to challenge their existing thoughts and beliefs about reality, because if they do they lose touch with that sense of safety they get form holding tightly to one of their perspectives that they think is so true.
ULTIMATE SELF-RESPONSIBILITY
Being un-threaten-able
When you recognize that your experience is yours this is the ultimate self-responsibility. It is also the actualization of living in your power. You understand that everything you experience is because of how you interpret what you see. This lets everyone else in your reality off the hook for how you feel. That is a big statement. Who would you be if you let go of all of your resentments, angers, blames, hurts and fears? All that remains after you let go of all of that stuff is you, in your most pure and essential state of being. One could say that all that remains is love, which is what you are. Yet we hold on because we don’t feel that something is fair or right. Being in love, at peace, and in your natural state of feeling and being free, often means that you have to let go of being right. The letting go of a way that we see something as so right is one of the hardest things for our minds to do, because the mind will protect and defend us at all costs. So we create war over peace as soon as we perceive that something could be threatened. How do we become un-threaten-able? By taking full responsibility for how we feel in every moment.
Peace is just a perspective away, but we have to be the one’s to choose it, and we won’t choose it if we perceive that others can harm us. Rather we will choose defense, protection and attack. We will give away our power to each person who we say can decide for us how we feel because they did or didn’t do this or that thing, and then we will go to war with them, either actually or in our minds. In this we harm ourselves because we are the one’s that now have to live inside of the experience of defense and attack. We live in an internal environment of war and then we wonder why our bodies fall apart, shut down or attack themselves. It’s really not such a mystery if we look at the obviousness of the state of being that we are residing in day after day after day. Then we try to fix the body without recognizing the source from where it all arises. It is a cycle that many are lost in. With this said, none of this is to excuse or make ok harmful behavior, rather it is to help you see how you generate self-harm through creating an internal state of war, perpetuating the very thing you don’t want, and to see that the choice for peace is available. The more responsible you become to your own state of being the more resourceful you are in navigating whatever situations present themselves to you. You are available to participate rather than hide underneath many layers of protection, which leave you feeling powerless. You feel less and less victimized by life or others, and rest more and more into your power.
This can also birth empathy. You see that people hurt and harm others because they feel hurt and harmed. Hurt and harm are being thrown back and forth between people and someone has to break the cycle otherwise it just perpetuates endlessly, never reaching full resolution. Full resolution means “I surrender my need to be right for my desire for peace and love” or “I let go of my need to be right so that my heart can open and be a transmission of the love I am inside of my reality.” This never means you “take” crap from others, but rather that you simply can’t anymore. It is not possible when you are rested in your power because you are fully responsible for you. You will take whatever actions you need to and that are aligned with you as love. You realize that everything and everywhere you are is because you choose it, not because anyone or anything can manipulate you. You have nothing left to defend or protect from because you have ended the war inside of you. You have come into agreement with the reality you are in. Others can take note of your presence in love and perhaps have the courage and willingness to choose love for themselves, but others choices are never ours to attempt to control. Each person has free will. We can only, to the best of our ability, be ourselves and let people do or not do whatever they will with that information of us, that which we emit through our being and actions. There is no more manipulation of others or ourselves. The joy is in simply being ourselves with whatever situations life gives us to learn and play through. This ends all suffering and returns us to ourselves.
Dr. Amanda Lalita Love, Network Spinal Analysis Chiropractic & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado
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