Insisting on Non-wrongness
Moving past regret, remorse, doubt and judgment
What would your life feel like if you insisted on non-wrongness rather than the perspective that things are wrong, that you’ve done something wrong or that there are mistakes that you or others have made? We are so often tormented by our own inner voices that fight for the story of imperfection and wrongness. The concept of wrongness is so engrained in our thought patterns that it completely filters and taints the way that we perceive the world. Most do not even question their perspective of wrongness, they simple accept this perspective unconsciously and live feeling regret, remorse, doubt and in judgment of self or others.
The perspective of wrongness creates immense suffering. It kicks people out of the “kingdom of God” or said another way, out of the experience of heaven, bliss, and love at all times. Rather than perceiving the divine orchestration of God/the universe being all pervasive, our story of wrongness kicks in and says “this is God” and “this is not God”. Or this one thing is perfect, but this other thing is not perfect. This is right, but this is wrong. Hence duality and polarity are created and our experiences are of separation and suffering. What we fail to realize is that this separation that we are experiencing is not outside of us. It does not come from some random outer place. It comes from within our own heads. It is our mind that determines the story of wrongness and only you can change your mind. Nothing outside of you can do that for you.
Why is it that we have this inner judger of right and wrong, perfect and imperfect, and included and not included? We have been born into and simultaneously have bought into a collective belief system that is driven by this very concept. Get that wrongness is simply a concept, an idea, it has no real validity except that which have and continue to give to it. What if you no longer gave any energy to the concept, idea and belief of wrongness? What if when things arose within your experience of life you saw them as perfect no matter if you liked what was presenting itself or not? This is the path to everlasting freedom, to perceiving the truth of perfection and the all pervasive intelligent design of every atom and galaxy of the universe.
Choosing what you’ve chosen
Beyond the personal
Due to the fact that we have been submerged in this belief of wrongness for our entire human life there is some work to do in transitioning from perceiving wrongness to non-wrongness. The first thing is to stop insisting that what is, is in any way wrong whatsoever. This means everything. From the thing that your partner said to you that you didn’t like, to the thing you did but regretted or questioned doing after you did it, to something your boss or parents did or didn’t do, to some bad feeling state or physical pain you are experiencing, or some “accident” that occurred that you are perceiving as bad or detrimental. As you move out of the perspective of wrongness and choose non-wrongness you also no longer experience fear or doubt of any kind because you see more and more the pure perfection of how everything is rather than seeing mistakes or wrongness.
To choose what you’ve consciously or unconsciously chosen, which is to accept what is, frees you from all self hate and other hate. To judge as wrong and resist what you’ve chosen is to create separation where there is no separation and it always feels bad. It leaves you feeling restless, resistant, angry, anxious, annoyed, wounded or hurt. It creates a state of dis-“ease” and supports separation rather than wholeness. When you decide to accept your experiences, seeing yourself as the chooser of all of your experiences, whether or not you can see from your current perspective that you’ve chosen what you are experiencing, you experience a coming together and eventual complete unification with all of life.
Sometimes it is hard for us to see how/why we have chosen certain experiences, particularly painful ones. What I can say is that someway, somehow we are the ultimate chooser of it all. Sometimes we choose experiences for our own personal growth and expansion and at other times we choose experiences to help others with their lessons. Still beyond that we choose experiences to support the collective human species and beyond that the universe at large to expand, evolve and grow. Our lives are much more than the small personal lives we tend to perceive on a day to day basis. We are part of much larger and larger bodies that are more inclusive than just our individual lives.
We are not always aware of what level our choice in experience is supporting. Whether its just personal, or for other self, the collective or universal, but knowing this and have this perspective that you are bigger than your individual person can help you shift from the question of “why is this happening to me?” and perceiving a sense of alienation or wrongness, into a perspective of seeing the larger orchestration of life of which your person is a part of. In this larger perspective our individual person often doesn’t know what it is supporting, but it is rested in knowing the non-wrongness that is inherent from this larger perspective.
Doing the work to choose non-wrongness will open you up more and more to larger perspectives and aspects of your collective and universal being from where you will be able to experience more consistent bliss and love no matter what seems to be occurring in your personal life experience.
Dr. Amanda Hessel, Chiropractor, Network Spinal Analysis & Somato-Respiratory Integration, Boulder, Colorado